We talk a lot about 90 Day Fiance and 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? on here. But there’s another spinoff series, and it deserves its time in the spotlight, too.
90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days may have an awkward title, but the show — which began airing last month — has some great couples.
But some troubling social media posts had fans wondering if one of the most compelling couples — Darcey and Jesse — had called it quits.
Darcey Silva is 42 and Jesse Meester is 24.
The age gap alone is enough of a hurdle to leap, between the fact that they come from different worlds to the stares and social pressures that they’re likely to face.
And then there’s the fact that Jesse is Dutch and Darcey is from the US.
Their height difference might mean that they’re statistically more likely to stay together than a lot of couples, but they’re still facing an uphill climb as a couple.
And we don’t mean that in the sexy, “climb him like a tree,” way. Though Darcey hasn’t been shy about how how her fitness model fiance is.
After Jesse posted about getting a workout by swimming in the sea, Darcey had this to add.
“Ohhhh Yes U do baby….thank heaven you and I get a different kinda workout too outside the sea too! A sexy workout!!! If you know what I mean! Lol!!!”
That’s kind of precious.
It’s affectionate, but it’s also exactly the sort of awkward posting style that anyone whose mom is on Facebook might expect to see from a 42-year-old woman.
One of Darcey’s very different posts to social media, however, caught the attention of fans (even though it was deleted) and has had people wondering if the couple that they’ve seen bonding on screen has broken up in real life.
Back in July, Darcey posted and then deleted an angry mini-rant on Facebook that seemingly could not be about anyone but Jesse.
“So over it!!!! Now he can f–k all the other b–ches!!!”
That sounded like bad news for the couple.
(Good news for “all the other b–ches,” though)
This week, however, the couple seems to be singing a different tune.
Obviously, there are some restrictions on what they can share about their romantic lives to avoid “spoiling” things for viewers.
But Darcey posted a photo of the two of them (one so blurry that we won’t make you look at it here; have you seen fog? Imagine a black-and-white movie filmed by a blind person in the fog), with this caption:
“To everyone in the world who has a compassionate heart and gentle ear to listen to my heartfelt message. I am sorry if you don’t feel me…I am only here for love. I truly want you to know from the bottom of my heart and soul that I will always love and stand by my Man. He is a strong, loving, trustworthy, compassionate, and respectable man! I will always love him, trust and believe in him with all my love deep in my soul!”
So … between that and the previous post, it sounds like she was having some trust issues but is working to get over them.
Jesse also had some comments.
Also this week.
In a now-deleted comment, some nasty little troll said something negative about Darcey.
And Jesse didn’t care for that.
“You make me laugh. You like to think that, don’t you? She never said such a thing. 3 months ago she wrote: “i’m over it. He can f*ck all the other b*tches now as seen on gossip articles. Out of frustration and vulnerability she wrote that.”
Some people don’t have great impulse-control, and social media does not combine well with that.
“Is that ok? No. It that nice/smart? Absolutely not. And she knows my opinion very well about this. But we never broke up. So watch the show to see how it will go between us. There’s more to come. Darcey had that public ‘writing tendency’ 3 months ago.”
It sounds like he’s being very honest, here.
And he plugs 90 Day Fiance!
“I distant myself from that behavior and find it immature, and she knows that. It only causes confusion. And sometimes, that confusion is really fun, because people love to elaborate on that and create even more stories. So more laughs for me.”
That’s a great attitude to have about gossip.
“I did a youtube video on this subject. She apologized for that comment right after. And after that post she decided to step away from social media which I respect her for. I support her, but I am not in control of what she does or writes. Nothing but love.”
Awww!
He says to watch to find out how things are going with them … but really, it sounds like they’re still together.
The intriguing dynamic to 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days is that the people on there haven’t begun the K-1 visa process.
Some of the couples featured on 90 Day Fiance in the past truly hadn’t met before the visa process began. On this show, though, we see them before their 90 day race towards a major life decision begins.
They face different challenges (and with less of a set-in-stone deadline) than they will when they do begin the K-1 visa process.
We look forward to seeing where Darcey and Jesse end up.
At an altar, if these posts are any indication.
