The Real Housewives of New York is full of reality personalities who leave an impression, but Bethenny Frankel is a fan-favorite.
Despite some difficulties in her life, she’s had an exciting career and she really seems to reach through the screen and win people over.
Now she’s saying that she’s in hell.
She says that following her feelings and instincts is what got her there.
“My heart and gut and instinct got me in the toilet bowl,” she tells costar LuAnn de Lesseps in last night’s episode of Real Housewives Of New York City.
“The worst situation of my entire life.”
She does not mince words, huh?
“I’m literally in a dungeon and torture chamber, and that is because I just went with my heart and my gut and could never have imagined what happened. That is real.”
It doesn’t take an expert to read between the lines and know that she’s talking about her wildly contentious divorce from ex-husband Jason Hoppy.
It makes sense that she’d still have strong feelings.
After all, this is a relationship where the marriage lasted only a couple of years before separation, but the divorce took four years before it was finalized.
Anyone who’s been divorced, known someone who got divorced, or just has any kind of grasp of what that entails knows that divorce is a nightmare.
When the process lasts twice as long as the marriage itself, you’re talking about someone who’s been through the wringer.
And has some serious regrets.
“You have no idea what I’ve been through, and hopefully you’ll never know.”
But Bethenny doesn’t talk about this as all being in the past, either.
“I didn’t ‘go through’ s—, I’m in s—. I’m not done — I’ll never be done.”
That sounds serious, especially after the divorce was finalized.
“It’s not your gut and your heart and all this s—; you have to be smart. Because I’m in goddamn hell.”
She doesn’t sound optimistic, either.
“And it’ll never end.”
This harrowing description of her life — which contains a little hyperbole, to be sure — came up because of LuAnn drama.
LuAnn married Tom D’Agostino in June 2016, and her friends and costars recounted how many times he’s cheated just during the short time of their relationship.
Basically, they describe a grown man who’s now married who keeps stepping out on LuAnn as if he’s a college student spending a summer abroad.
LuAnn defends herself saying that she’s going to follow her feelings and her gut.
But Bethenny Frankel warns her that she needs to be smart.
It doesn’t sound like LuAnn is willing to listen, but maybe Bethenny sharing her story will lead to some members of the audience making better choices.
After all, divorce isn’t just miserable — it’s expensive.
