Fun fact: not all Bachelor in Paradise romances lead to disaster. Every now and then, a couple emerges and they stay together. In fact, Jade Roper and Tanner Tolbert got engaged, got married, and then Jade and Tanner welcomed their first child!
Jade Roper recently shared a precious breastfeeding photo and got slammed for it.
Now that the dust has settled, she’s speaking out.
it started with this photo and the accompanying caption:
“Mommy PSA! Nursing Emmy has been one of the most amazing experiences of my life (I adore these after feeding snuggles, too).”
It’s not just a source of nutrition — it can be an incredible period of bonding.
“It’s so incredible how our bodies transform during and post-pregnancy. But all nursing mommies out there know how difficult finding a good, functional nursing bra can be!”
Well, here comes the product placement.
“@thirdlove has created a comfortable, practical and beautiful nursing bra that FITS! You go on their site and take a quick fit finder quiz and they ship the bras straight to your door.”
But at least she offers a promo code.
“Even better they offer a 100% fit guarantee! They have a wide range of styles and sizes for every woman. (I also got a beautiful lace bra). Use my code JADE15 for 15% off your first order! #mythirdlove”
As precious as the picture, snapped right after she was breastfeeding her adorable baby, was … she got some backlash, and took to her Instagram story to address it.
“So, I had some comments about the picture I posted of me and Emerson after I was breastfeeding and people telling me they don’t look like that when they breastfeed and that I was setting up a standard that’s impossible to live up to.”
She did look super nice in that photo.
“The truth about that picture is I had a photo shoot the day before and I hadn’t taken my makeup off, so that’s literally the day before’s makeup.”
She shouldn’t have to explain why she had the gall to look nice in a photo … but that definitely explains it.
“And it was slightly staged — we positioned Emerson just right to make the picture [work], but that was literally right after I had fed her and she had fallen asleep on me and we do have those moments where we snuggle so I don’t get what’s so unreal about it.”
Any photo that isn’t a candid is slightly staged.
She clarifies that her real life is a good deal messier.
“People were telling me I shouldn’t cover up. I was actually getting flack for putting a cover over my baby which I just don’t understand why that would be something people would give me s–t about.”
You can cover up your boob or you can leave it exposed, folks. That’s your right as a human being. One person’s campaign to go topless should not be read as a mandate for another to cover up.
“And my baby is feeding right now and I’m still going to cover up because that’s what I feel the most comfortable with. I feel like I don’t need to share all of that with the world, that’s not the message. It’s just that women should be able to do what they feel like they need to do for their babies.”
Exactly! She can cover up or not. Again, her choice.
“And my baby is feeding right now and I’m still going to cover up because that’s what I feel the most comfortable with. I feel like I don’t need to share all of that with the world, that’s not the message. It’s just that women should be able to do what they feel like they need to do for their babies.”
It turns out that her reply to the backlash was well-received, because she posted again — with this throwback pic.
“You guuuuys, thank you so much for all the support I’ve received about my Instagram stories earlier. It truly, truly means so much to me and I tried to read every kind and empowering message from each of you.”
“I was very emotional earlier. and I think it’s because my nursing relationship with Emmy is one of my most favorite mommy experiences (even though it’s had its ups and downs, because it’s an ever changing experience).”
“Thank you for letting me be myself and express how much I love being a mom and thank you for letting me express myself when I feel like I’m failing as a mom (or failing others) or I feel unsure of myself.”
She finishes that photo’s caption with:
“All the moms out there that support each other, you’re the best. *This is my favorite post-feeding picture of Emmy and me, I can’t believe she used to be this little."”
It’s a shame that she got backlash for looking her best for a photo. Famous people don’t owe you the nitty gritty messiness of human existence.
It’s also a shame that people give her a hard time for covering up. That is every bit as bad as giving a woman a hard time for not covering up. What’s liberating for one woman can be horrifying for another.
If she had to get criticized for something, you’d think that it would have been for posting what looked like a sponsored post without following FTC guidelines on the #ad hashtag.
